Communication: I am just saying.....

The way i see it, communication is key.

Choose your words well and dont mind repeating and explaining until the other person gets it.After all you wish to be heard and understood eti? put in the work.

On the other hand, If you dont chose your words well, dont blame others if they misunderstand you. That person does not always have a personal vandetta against you or isnt just out to turn things around on you. Probably a good thought to have it "oh i didnt communicate well there. this person has misunderstood me". Just clarify what you really meant and move on

it s not always that munthuyo ndiwosanva kapena wovuta koma kuti communication inavuta. We should work hard to get better at communication and not make excuses for our shortfalls.Lets not say  pajatu communication imandivuta. That way we will never get better. 

If you say you look like a monkey, how many different ways are there to understand that? Then if someone says are you saying i am a monkey you get insulted because they misunderstood you? what you really meant was that the  person was wearing a scarf like the one your aunt's monkey wears....Obviously communication siyinayende bwino pamanepo. so instead of sulking kuti how could you think i meant that, learn to say the right words for what you really mean. 

Granted it comes with practice, so practice. No one is perfect......

But dont make excuses for yourself if you are falling short in expressing your thoughts accurately. Work at it. 

After all apart from our thoughts, feelings and words, there are few other things that are as personal to us. So i can imagine it is important to you that you are heard and understood. The communication of yourself is YOUR responsibility, not anyone else's. 

So put in the work.

I am just saying........